She wishes she never went to her daughter Sharon’s Doveton Street house and found police tape surrounding the property.

Mrs Sierman’s and her husband John wish they had never had to bury their only daughter, who was brutally murdered by parolee and convicted rapist Jason John Dinsley, who had stalked her after one date.  

But today’s date can never be erased. Since the day Sharon was murdered Mrs Siermans has worn a black White Ribbon band on her wrist.

She will never take it off. 

Mr and Mrs Siermans wish they could be the grandparents who can fill Sharon’s son Aron with red cordial, but they can’t.

They are now his sole guardians. Sometimes Aron asks his grandparents questions they don’t know how to answer – like what will happen when they are gone?

Their life has been irreversibly changed, but they are determined to make sure their daughter’s death was not in vain.

Domestic violence took hold of Sharon’s life – she fled a violent relationship with her son Aron.

She had just delved into the dating world again when she was murdered by Dinsley. 

“Until you go through it, you take it for granted. Our lives have been changed for ever,” Mrs Siermans said. 

Mr Siermans may not think of his two sons – who he loves – every day. But every day he thinks of the daughter he hasn’t seen in three years.

“She used to come over and say ‘hi’,” Mr Siermans said. She will never say that again.

Every time the Siermans here a news story about domestic violence, or a woman being stabbed, beaten or raped by an ex-partner, pain floods their hearts. Sharon’s two brothers refuse to watch the news now –they find it too heartbreaking. 

For a time the Siermans thought the parole board had “toughened up”.

Now they feel it is too lenient on recidivist offenders.

“Dinsley had been convicted off 99 offences,” Mr Siermans said. He can’t believe he was out.

“Our wish is for the parole board not to be so lenient,” Mrs Seirmans said. They both want there to be a great focus on the victim, the victim’s family rather than giving an offender “another chance”.

“Aron has been deprived of his mother,” Mrs Siermans said. “When is society going to change?” Nothing will ever bring back their quiet, loving, artistic daughter. 

“Now is our grieving time,” Mrs Siermans said. Mr Siermans, who accidentally stopped taking his stress medication turning him into a “blubbering mess”, will never get over his daughter’s death.  

“We’ve had our world changed forever.”